This week’s hypnosis lesson proves it doesn’t matter what technique you use to hypnotize someone (so relax…you’re stressing me out).
Many students in the past 3 years have reached out with concerns that, ultimately, mean very little in the big scheme of things.
Please don’t mistake this for me being uncaring or dismissive. It’s neither. When you read my responses below to some of the most popular questions I’ve been asked, you’ll realize people use these fear-based questions as excuses not to go out and hypnotize (aka self sabotage).
If you’re a complete beginner to hypnosis, don’t feel bad. When I started hypnosis at 19, I was an anxious self sabotaging mess too.
Things began changing when I realized it’s about flow.
It’s not about the induction. It’s not about making people do crazy things under hypnosis. It’s certainly not about you.
It’s about the positive experience you guide people through as a Hypnotist. This, by nature, occurs when you understand each person’s individual flow and work within that flow to provide them said positive experience.
Now the question becomes, “How do you provide that experience?”
To help you get started, I’ll answer some of the most popular questions I’ve been asked since HypnoKick’s inception 3 years ago.
Please note, in the same manner that your volunteers may over dramatize the idea of getting hypnotized (thanks to Hollywood movies and other dramatic sources), it’s likely you yourself are over dramatizing the idea of hypnotizing people.
In other words, you’re psyching yourself out. Actual hypnosis (aka relaxation) is simple and quick to perform (as per HypnoKick’s free eBook).
- What induction should I use? The answer is whichever induction you want to use. Granted it should be appropriate for the situation you’re in. For example, if I were hypnotizing someone in a parking lot for the first time, I would likely use the handshake interruption induction as taught in our Members Area. It’s quick/efficient/safe & allows for a pleasant first time experience the way I perform it. I would not, however, perform an instant handshake induction. Depending on how trusting/relaxed/willing my volunteer was, they could fall on the concrete in the parking lot. This could potentially lead to head trauma/bodily bruising or fractures/doctor or hospital bills/ legal issues/ etc.
- What if I really like the Instant Handshake Induction? Safety should always be your first priority. After all, the people you are hypnotizing are trusting you with their minds and their bodies. As stated above, it’s all about your situation. If you want to perform such a quick/rapid/instant induction, you should take the necessary safety precautions first. First, ask the 3 safety questions in Hypnokick’s free eBook (this should be done before any induction for anyone’s first time being hypnotized). Second, assuming your volunteer passes the 3 questions, find a safe/comfortable area for your volunteer to sit/lay. From that point, just ensure your volunteer will be physically safe from harm where ever they’re sitting/laying if you proceed with an instant handshake induction.
- What if I mess up the induction? Persist. Seriously, that’s it. I can’t tell you the amount of times I’ve verbally stuttered or stumbled over my own words when hypnotizing people. The one thing I’ve learned, however, is persistence pays. If you push through your immediate mistake as if it never occurred and continue the process, it’ll still work. People will rarely (if ever) remember your mistakes like you will. That’s normal, you’re the Hypnotist. At the end of the day, people will remember the guidance you provided them and experience you left them with, so make sure it’s a great one. If, on the other hand, you’re referring to messing up the physical act of the induction itself, no worries. People make mistakes all the time, just make sure you’re not accidentally harming them in any way and…persist!
- What if people don’t take me seriously? This, my friend, is a self projection. For those unfamiliar with the term, a self projection is when you assume others think about you in the same manner you ultimately think about yourself deep down. This is rooted in whatever insecurities you have about yourself. You’re simply projecting your insecurities onto others and assuming they view you as you view yourself with said insecurities. Good news, you’re wrong. The sooner you understand you have the knowledge and skills to provide amazing experiences to those who want them, the sooner you’ll begin internalizing the truth…you are the Hypnotist. This is especially true when approaching/hypnotizing people you’ve never met before. They never knew you before. Therefore, if you present yourself as a Hypnotist, they haven’t any reason to not take your word for it (unless they’re heckling you…simply steer clear/walk away from hecklers).
- What do I do if family/friends don’t take me seriously? Look at this from their perspective. They knew you before you chose to start hypnotizing people. Therefore, in their minds, you are still the same person you were before you took an interest in hypnosis. For example, if your parent or best friend was a construction worker, that’s how you’d view them. You may be caught by surprise and question them if they took up dance or sculpture. However, just like it would eventually become normal for you to view them as a dancer or sculptor the longer they stuck with it, give your family/friends time to digest that you’re a Hypnotist. In the meantime, go practice on more accepting family members or friends. Strangers are great because (as insinuated above) they have no preconceived notion of who you are and are much more likely to take you at face value as a Hypnotist. That’s how I started. I trained in Vegas, then hypnotized Vegas tourists. As a result, I gained enough in-field real-world experience with strangers to successfully hypnotize my family/friends when I returned home.
- Why won’t a certain induction work? This is a loaded question that, without personally consulting or mentoring you, I’m unable to answer specifically. However, I’ll try providing some tips here. First and foremost, make sure the person you are going to hypnotize is both willing and understands that hypnosis (in/of itself) is just relaxation. Also make it known that they have to work with you and your instructions/guidance to properly experience hypnosis. That if they resist, they will be wasting both of your times. Personally, I’d started with the handshake interruption induction. It’s normal (at least where I’m from) to shake hands with people. As a result, the gesture is natural and provides you a smooth transition into hypnotizing your volunteer. If it’s another induction (such as the Instant Handshake Induction) you’re curious about, I’d suggest finding a safe/comfortable place for your volunteer to sit/lay and practicing a few times there until you get comfortable with that induction. Also request feedback from your volunteer regardless of the inductions you’re using. This enables you to better understand how to improve your approach with each induction you practice. Many other inductions can be used as a go-to initial induction, though I generally use them as a re-induction technique.
- Why do you only do one or two primary inductions? As previously stated, the Handshake Interruption Induction has become my go-to. Partially because it’s the primary one I was trained to use in my Vegas training. Also because (as a social norm most places I visit/entertain) shaking someone’s hand upon greeting them is viewed as polite. This social dynamic enables me to take what most people I entertain consider a polite gesture and transition it into a hypnotic induction. After I’ve hypnotized the person once, they understand the basic process and feeling. This means I can re-induce them using another technique and they’ll likely respond accordingly.
- How do I transition from one induction to another? While I teach post-hypnotic suggestions in greater depth here, the basic concept is to instill what you plan to do before you do it. For example, I may first use a Handshake Interruption induction and later wish to use an Instant Handshake Induction. After I’ve successfully hypnotized my volunteer with a classic Handshake Interrupt, I’ll use a post hypnotic suggestion such as, “Any time from this point forward that I specifically shake your hand and say the word ‘sleep’, you can allow yourself to immediately re-enter this exact state of mental and physical relaxation. You’ll lean into my shoulder knowing that you’re safe and taken care of.” After I wake them up and ensure they’re alright, I’ll eventually shake their hand, say “Sleep!” and be in the appropriate position to catch them in my arms as they lean into me. In rare cases they may lean to their side or back, which is why (1) this can be dangerous to perform and (2) you should always be alert and ready to catch them no matter what (avoid them lawsuits mate)!
- What other inductions can I use? Just as I answered in the first question, whichever you want to use. I heard of a Hypnotist once hypnotizing their son by incorporating the family cat. The son was on their bed petting the family cat and the Hypnotist said the more the son pet the cat, the more relaxed he’d become until he simply laid on the bed (eyes shut). I still remember a High School After Prom Hypnosis Show I was hosting in Iowa, where I hypnotized a young man by having him stare at a wall. I simply instructed him to stare at the wall in front of him and, as I walked out of his field of vision, told him the longer he stared at the wall, the more relaxed he’d become until he allowed himself to go back under (with his feet supporting him so he didn’t fall over, of course). Again, it’s situational. There’s no right answer. Be as creative as you wish as long as you’re keeping your volunteers’ mental, physical and emotional well-being in proper check as you do so.
As stated in the beginning of this semi-mammoth lesson, it’s about flow.
What you mainly want to concentrate on is providing your volunteer(s) with a positive experience they can walk away from without regret.
Make sure they (1) want the experience, (2) understand what hypnosis actually is so their mind’s at ease & (3) are willing to listen to/follow your instructions.
Assuming they understand these things and are willing to let you be their guide (aka Hypnotist), guide them in slowly/gently at first. This way they’re comfortable & at ease (and trust you more if you both agree to a follow-up demonstration).
This week’s video demonstration proves it’s the experience that matters, not the induction…
Focus on providing a well-rounded experience in which your future volunteers come out feeling mentally/physically/emotionally better than they did going in.
At the end of the day, most people I’ve met are more skeptical about the experience of being hypnotized, than how the experience is induced.
As long as you take a gentle & slow approach at first, their trust in you/hypnosis will build and you may gain a new believer/fan.